Some Categories of Pastoral Care

Should I Marry Her?

Should I Marry Her?

Question

I became engaged to a virtuous young woman. However, I found that her mother is sharp-tempered, causes many problems, and is difficult to deal with. Should I go ahead with marrying her, and have this troublesome mother become my mother-in-law? I am worried.

Or should I not marry her? In that case, my conscience would trouble me, because what is the daughter’s fault if her mother is like this? So what do you advise me?

Answer

Yes, what is the daughter’s fault if her mother is like this?

Does the mother stand in her way and prevent every opportunity for marriage from reaching her?

I have often been asked this question, and my answer has been:

You may marry this daughter on two conditions:

1. That she has not inherited any of her mother’s traits, but on the contrary, is convincedly opposed to her mother’s behavior.
2. That she has an independent personality, so that in the future she will not follow her mother or be under her obedience in her mistakes.

In this way, you can save this wronged daughter by marrying her, so that you do not leave her a victim of a sharp-tempered mother who causes many problems and is difficult to deal with.

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