Should I Break the Engagement?
Should I Break the Engagement?
Question
I am engaged. My fiancé loves me very much, and he is a religious man of good character. But I do not love him. Should I break the engagement?
Answer
My daughter, in matters of great importance upon which the course of your life depends, do not make a quick decision out of emotion.
Rather, think carefully and ask yourself the following questions:
1- If you lose this fiancé, will another one come to you?
2- And if another one comes, will he be better than him?
3- And if another suitor asks for your hand, and it turns out that he is harsh and treats you severely, will you regret it and say, “I wish I had accepted that fiancé who was of good character”?
4- And if another fiancé of good character comes to you, will he love you with the same love that your current fiancé has for you?
5- And can you guarantee that the fiancé whom you yourself will love will come to you?
6- And why do you now say that you do not love your fiancé? Why did you not say that before the engagement was completed?
Finally, I will offer you a suggestion to test your feelings:
You may try a period during which your fiancé is absent from you, or you are absent from him… Then examine the depths of your heart: What are your feelings toward him during this absence, especially if the period becomes long… Or if time passes without him contacting you by telephone, letter, or visit…
Then you will know the truth of your statement: “But I do not love him”.
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