Dealing with the father of confession
Dealing with the father of confession
Question:
If the guidance of the father of confession does not comfort me, and I do not agree with it, what should I do? Should I leave him? Or go against his guidance and walk according to my conscience? Or not consult him again?
Answer:
My opinion is that you should be frank with your father of confession, and inform him of your condition with complete clarity, and explain to him how the guidance does not comfort you.
An example of this is a doctor who prescribes medicine for a patient. If he becomes tired from this medicine, he should tell the doctor frankly: the medicine did not give me comfort but rather exhausted me. He may then change the medicine for him, or explain to him its effect and influence, and the two come out in understanding…
And just as you are frank with the father of confession, be also frank with yourself: Are you faithful to the Lord, and the guidance troubles you because of the sincerity of your spirituality? Or are you walking according to your own desire and want the father of confession to comply with what you want? Or is the opinion of the father of confession truly wrong, or at least not suitable for you?
It is assumed that you do not go against your father of confession. But if with all honesty and sincerity he hinders your spirituality, it is possible that this relationship may end, and that you have another father of confession, and that you separate in calmness and love..
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