The Duties of Confessors

General Idea of the Lecture

The lecture revolves around the duties of the confessor in the Sacrament of Confession, explaining how confession should be a mature spiritual practice based on sincere repentance, balance, and respect for the role of the Father Confessor, not on emotions, argument, or unhealthy dependence.

Main Points

1. Respecting the Time and Health of the Father Confessor
   His Holiness Pope Shenouda III emphasizes the importance of respecting the priest’s time, responsibilities, and health, and not exhausting him with unnecessary length or unfocused talk.
2. Confidentiality Is a Shared Responsibility
   The secrecy of confession does not concern the Father Confessor alone; the confessor is also responsible not to attribute statements or decisions to the priest in a way that causes embarrassment or reveals what should remain hidden.
3. Confession Is for Guidance, Not Mere Approval
   The confessor comes to receive spiritual counsel, not a signature or automatic approval for pre-made decisions. True obedience appears when a person obeys in matters that do not align with personal desires.
4. Emotional Balance and Avoiding Excessive Sensitivity
   The confessor should not be overly sensitive or emotionally reactive, nor turn confession into an emotional arena that burdens the priest psychologically.
5. Focus and Brevity Instead of Storytelling
   Confession is the clear acknowledgment of sins with responsibility, not long narratives and justifications. What is required is identifying the sin, not recounting stories.
6. Honesty Without Self-Justification
   The confessor comes to condemn himself before God, not to defend or justify himself, speaking with honesty, courtesy, and respect, knowing that openness leads to true guidance.

7. Spiritual Maturity and Balanced Independence
His Holiness warns against total dependence on the Father Confessor in every detail,

calling for spiritual growth and personal responsibility alongside benefiting from guidance.

8. Love and Trust as the Foundation of the Relationship
   Mutual trust and love between the confessor and the Father Confessor save time, remove sensitivity, and help accept guidance without resistance.

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