Going Out Together During the Engagement
Going Out Together During the Engagement
Question
To what extent should acquaintance take place during the engagement period?
And is it sinful for the engaged couple to go out together?
Answer
Going out together is not sinful, provided that it is with the knowledge of the bride-to-be’s family, and provided that they do not fall into emotional mistakes.
The engagement period is a period of getting to know one another. During it, each of the engaged couple comes to know the other and sees whether they can be compatible with the other’s nature or not. But how can each of them study the other’s personality, manner, and character if they do not go out together?
Some families allow them to meet at home. Other families allow such outings in the company of a brother or sister of the bride-to-be. There is no doubt that this is a form of restriction that does not allow complete acquaintance.
The important thing is that the bride-to-be should be careful to preserve her chastity.
She should not become involved in emotional matters that may later cause the engagement to be broken off, nor should she give her fiancé a favorable impression regarding inappropriate moral conduct.
Likewise, these emotional practices do not give either of them the opportunity to study the other and know his or her character, mentality, personality, and other qualities. After that, the truth may become apparent only after marriage, disagreements may arise, and there is no remedy….
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