The servant in the family

His Holiness Pope Shenouda explains that the servant’s ministry is not limited to knowledge or appearance in church only, but it must be a religion lived first inside the family before being presented to others.

Required psychological and spiritual traits

The servant at home shows his true nature before his family; therefore he must be characterized by humility, meekness, kindness, and respect, and must not be extreme or domineering.

Practical behaviors and daily situations

The servant should be cooperative: make his bed and clothes tidy, help prepare and clear the food, wash the dishes, help his siblings with their lessons and needs, and not leave the family burdened by him.

Method of witness, not coercion

The servant teaches by calm invitation and living example, not by compulsion or hurt; explain and witness to the truth with patience and wisdom as Christ did (the gradual way of mission: from the home to the world).

Regulation of worship and boundaries

The servant must be balanced in his worship — not show an extremism that exhausts the family, but arrange worship agreed with father and mother so it does not cause health or social problems.

Spirituality in family dealings

Being an example is more important than preaching: be an example in love, cooperation, cheerfulness, and practical and scholastic success; the servant’s success in life strengthens his spiritual influence within the family.

Warnings against wrong methods

His Holiness Pope Shenouda warns against violent intervention or domination in the household, and against applying monastic manners harshly at home; religion must enter with gentleness and wisdom.

Practical conclusion

The first ministry of the servant in the family is to be a practical example: his love, gentleness, calmness, and respect for all, with time management and avoidance of extremism, so that his witness will be accepted and fruitful.

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